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In modern times as today, most women double role as housewives and career women. Number of time spent outside the home to open greater opportunities to meet with the opposite sex who finally opened up opportunities to love each other. The amount of opportunities that often make a woman involved “love at the location”, and can make a family neglect, and even lead to divorce.

Life After Sexual Abuse

There is no doubt that sexual abuse is a terrible thing to go through, at any age, any gender, by any person. It is a destructive force that will come in and wreak havoc on the very soul of the victim. The experience produces a lack of trust, self-esteem issues, identity questions, and a long road to recovery.

Sex and Spirituality

With the Sexual Revolution, a la "Playboy", now behind us, as well as the Victorian attitudes which it rejected, perhaps we are ready for a new conception of sexuality, one not dividing, but embracing, both body and spirit.

With few exceptions, such as the Tantric tradition, for centuries both Eastern and Western religious leaders have warned of the dangers of the flesh, and exhorted abstinence and restraint in the furtherance of spiritual ideals.

Do You Love Your Mistress?

I often hear from wives who ask me how husbands really feel about their mistresses. I often hear things like: "It's bad enough that he cheated on me and had a physical relationship with someone else. But, the emotional cheating is the hardest to take. Because I don't think I could bear it if he was in love with her."

How to Speak with Your Partner if You Know Him Well

Efforts to really know our partner continue throughout our lifetime. People do not change, but they do mature in their tastes, preferences, attitudes and feelings. What keeps a relationship alive and interesting is our desire to know our partner completely, yet never really attaining that goal.

There is no such thing as "enough" when it comes to knowing our partner well. Our partner will continue to develop new facets to his personality as time progresses and he has new and different experiences. We can know our partner well, but never enough.

We only have to think back over the past and reflect on the changes that have occurred in our own lives. We are not quite the same now as we were in our twenties, thirties etc... We change, we grow. So does our partner. It takes constant, loving vigilance to keep the "knowing" of our partner current and pertinent.

Some things about our partner will never change. He will take his coffee a particular way, have a favorite chair, prefer to sleep on the right side of the bed. Less concrete things, however, will continually change; his thoughts about life, his attitudes toward others, his preferences about how he spends his free time.

Life experience, professional fulfillment, relationships with friends, extended family and coworkers all leave their imprint on our partner's psyche. Life is seldom stagnant and change begets change. Two individuals agree to make the life journey as partners for better or worse. We cannot predict the future so there will always be an unknown element to our relationship as we stretch and strive to meet the challenges life presents.

I have spent almost half a century getting to know my spouse, and even after all this time, he continually surprises me with new attitudes and preferences. He is basically the same person, however, over the years his tastes in music, food choices and activities have varied.

My spouse has become more sentimental and more spiritual with the passing of time. He has mellowed about many of his previously rigid beliefs. I don't think I will ever finish "knowing" him, because as long as we live, we will both continue to grow and change, as will the world in which we live.

The word "enough" suggests completion, finished, done. We never want to feel finished with getting to know our partner. We want to continue to communicate to the end of time, and in the process, continue to learn new things about each other to share, to please, to enjoy.

Communication is the main ingredient for a fulfilling relationship. Communication is also the way we continue to learn new and exciting things about our partner.

Life is lived out in phases. There is the "getting together" phase, the "creating and bringing up a family" phase, the "pursuing our interests" phase, and ultimately the retirement phase. Through it all, communication will keep us on the same page as we share our feelings about the moments and memories which make up our life together.

If we reach the point where we feel we know our partner enough, that could suggest we are taking our partner for granted. Taking for granted that we know how our partner thinks and feels can potentially cheat us of learning new and exciting things about him. We never want to stop being curious to know more about the partner we love and respect.

Getting to know our partner is a continual work in progress; an ongoing, pleasurable journey through life and we can never know "enough."

What Would Casanova Do?

Despite an unremarkable mug, no man is more renowned for his power over women than Giacomo Casanova. In fact, his name has become synonymous with seduction During his 73 years, he made love to noblewomen, actresses, dancers, chambermaids, Greek slave girls, a priest's niece, a farmer's daughter, five sisters, a transvestite, a hunchback with "an excitingly misplaced vulva", a nymphomaniac, and two unrepentant nuns -- 132 ladies in all। He was, quite simply, irresistible। And the 200-odd years that have passed since his death have only embellished his reputation.

Every man, at one time or another, wants to be a Giacomo Casanova. And we're here to tell you it's possible. The ability to entrance a woman, to get her to surrender what Casanova called her "delicious little that," depends mostly on and sincerity. That's all there is to it. Although you may object to Casanova's morals (he reveled in orgies, abhorred condoms, and once made love to his illegitimate daughter), he was not reprehensible. "Unlike the fictional Don Juan or the Marquis de Sade, Casanova wasn't a sexual predator," says Ted Emery, Ph.D., an assistant professor of Italian at Dickinson College and a noted Casanovist.

"He was very much in love with most of these women, and they with him. He frequently mentions the multiple orgasms he gave them. This is certainly flattering, but the fact that he even thought about their pleasure makes him different and admirable." To gain a better understanding of this man's genius (without reading all 12 volumes of his autobiography), we attended a Casanova dinner at Sotheby's Institute of Art in New York City. It was a lavishly detailed re-creation (right down to the period cutlery) of a rendezvous in Venice in 1753 between the 28-year-old Casanova and a beautiful nun into whose habit he wished to plunge.

It was his finest moment -- an evening that exemplified his charm, and one from which all men can learn. "It was a dinner of seduction," explains Carolin Young, a culinary historian who organized the event. "It was 2 hours of playful flirtation during which they were both waiting to devour each other. Afterward, the nun finally told him she had 'an appetite that promised to do honor to the supper.' "

So what did Casanova do that night? How did he steal the keys to the convent? Before we divulge his secrets, you should understand that Casanova was not an aristocrat. Although he enjoyed projecting that image, he was essentially a gambler and a con man who fought duels and even served time in prison. So while this evening may appear highly sophisticated, don't forget that Casanova was, at heart, a philandering rogue who placed fun and love above all else.

If you're feeling particularly adventurous, you can stage a Casanova dinner of your own. You'll find recipes and even a shopping list (look at "Related Articles" below). (You, however, are responsible for the nun.) Otherwise, just adhere to the following 10 principles the next time you're with a woman you admire. The results will be delicious.

To make a woman feel special, do something special. For his illicit dinner with the good sister, Casanova rented an elegant five-room apartment. He met her as she stepped off the gondola, and they walked arm-in-arm across a lantern-lit plaza.

When you're trying to impress a woman, never utter these words at the cusp of an evening: "So, what do you feel like doing?" A true Casanova takes charge. He has a plan. To devise a memorable one, imagine that you're proposing. What would you do to make the night so special she couldn't possibly say no?. After all, you are proposing -- only it's something far more enticing than marriage. "Women are very appreciative of any kind of effort," says Young. "Casanova certainly realized that."